How Should We React To Ashley Madison?

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How Should We React To Ashley Madison?

August 29, 2015 I just read “My Pastor Is On The Ashley Madison List”, Ed Stetzers most recent response in Christianity Today to news that has the Christian world reeling. According to the article, likely hundreds of Pastors and Ministers will be resigning this week after being outed on the list of customers for a spousal cheating website. Ed does not mention other church leaders or members but the numbers are likely to be staggering. I suspect very large numbers of churches will be reeling from the scandal tomorrow. I would like to address the church first and then the ones involved. These posts will be longer than most, so I pray you will hang with me.

First of all, church, realize this is not just a failure of a bunch of individuals. It is a failure of us all. Have we really done everything we can to “see to it that no one is sexually immoral” (Heb. 12:15-16)? The wording here is in the strongest form of command, to all of the readers, It is the duty of every Christian. Admit we have failed our brothers and sisters caught here in sin.

Secondly, realize we are all guilty. Maybe not of adultery, but of gossip, lust, wrath, lying, complaint, pride or one (likely more) of a host of other sins. Remember Jesus’ words “Let the one without sin throw the first stone.” But also remember his last words to the adulterer after telling her he did not condemn her, “Go and sin no more”. It is our responsibility to help them to find victory over their sin. Take note of Gal. 6:1,2, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill tthe law of Christ.” Restoration is bringing them to a good state before God and the local body of Christ and it is our burden.

Next, build in some accountability for them. I met with an elder weekly after my affair and greatly appreciated his help and encouragement. If pornography is involved (highly likely) offer to have someone knowledgeable enough go through their computer and printed material with them and get rid of it. Suggest they Install covenant eyes or similar program on their computer and make their spouse and someone spiritual as accountability partners. Also work out the circumstances they are allowed back in the pulpit. But with how you go about these, keep in mind this: “Will I really want to pray the Lord’s prayer with it’s “forgive me as I forgive others” after this?

Lastly, realize, undoubtedly the enemy of our souls has been at work here. The world will point and say “See, I knew those Christians were a bunch of hypocrites.” But they may take notice if our response is filled with love, understanding and real help. Use the last component of the armor of God in Ephesians 6, “praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints.” This must be one of the greater times for this need. Kent

ReMadePreacher

Some you are probably thinking “What! What happened to ReSetpreacher? I’ve changed the name for two reasons. First, I’ve been rewriting some of the first of my book and thinking about what is being done in my life. Yes, my life feels reset. I am back to full time ministry. But frankly if a new start is all that’s happened, I’ll just mess it up again. What is happening to me is much more than that. I am being remade. God is changing me in so many ways.
Second reason for the name change: I’ve been looking back over my writing, particularly my story and realize an error. I’ve gone through chronologically as I have in my book. I now believe I need to get to the hope my life has brought much sooner, to “the good stuff”. So I’ll be taking down some of the posts and bringing them back later interspersed among posts about victory, relationship with God and my brothers and the Almighty’s amazing nature. I hope to add many readers now as well.

Kent in a panama

What Happened at www.resetpreacher.com?

If you are wondering what happened to the posts on my story, I have removed them for the time being due to a publishing agreement. Don’t get too excited yet, I’m entering the book in a contest. If disappointed, comment and I’ll consider including you in my pre-editing group. Thanks for understanding

Visit to Hawaii, Part 2

North shore, Kauai

   This picture was taken of the North Shore of Kauai from Captain Andy’s tour boat. The weather was very cooperative, so we traveled farther up the coast than typical. Saw the sights and even had an introduction to snorkeling.

   While in Lihue we met Bruce Baumgartner, pastor of Calvary Chapel there. We enjoyed his story, how God led him to ministry and Kauai. We also were fascinated with his telling of knowing Bethany Hamilton and the making of the movie of her story Soul Surfer. It is the inspirational telling of Bethany being attacked by a shark and losing her arm while surfing. Her faith sustained her and amazingly she is back to being a professional surfer. She also now travels the country to tell her story. She believes that God allowed this to further His kingdom. Be sure and watch the documentary if you watch the movie. I also spent an hour introducing him to Spiritual Battle Plan and hope to work with him to bring it there.

Visit to Hawaii!

Banyan Tree, Allerton Gardens

I apologize for taking so long to blog. I just could not seem to get back into writing after our trip to Hawaii. Yes, we went to Hawaii! Linda learned that we could use our home leave there for a real vacation this year. It is cheaper for the Army to send us there from Korea than to the rest of the country. And for some reason she would rather do that than go to Dallas. Ha! We had a wonderful time.

We especially enjoyed the island of Kauai. For those of you planning a trip to Hawaii, I highly recommend you get off of Oahu and see this island.  The botanical gardens there are amazing! We saw scenery and sat on a giant Banyan tree that was featured in Jurassic Park. Beautiful flowers are everywhere on the island but the plant life in Allerton Gardens is something else!

Man Of Steel, part 2

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Before going to see Man Of Steel, I saw the trailer which begins with a scene from Krypton. Superman’s Mother, Lana says “He will be an outcast, they will kill him.” His father, Jor el (played by Russell Crowe) says “How? To them, he will be a god!”

Upon seeing this trailer I was offended. I was under the impression that the originators of the superman comic had patterned him after Jesus Christ. This impression came from some unknown source in the past and was reinforced by picking up and taking a cursory look at The Gospel According to the World’s Greatest Superhero By Stephen Skelton. Preparing for this blog , I looked a little closer. Skelton points out that the first originators of the comic book were Jewish. But he also found there are many contributors to the Superman story and discovered “that some of the storytellers in the Superman canon have deliberately worked to infuse the narrative with their religious, even Christic, intentions”. You can read more excerpts from the book here: https://www.cbn.com/spirituallife/inspirationalteaching/superman_messianic.aspx

In spite of the offending line, I thoroughly enjoyed the movie. It displays copious amounts of courage, self-sacrifice, tenacity and deep care for others. It easily passed my analyzing whether some thing is worthwhile of my attention (more about this next time), Kent

Man of Steel

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I decided to let you take a break from introducing myself from my book and look at something current.

Like many boys from my generation, I was enthralled with comic books. Visits to the barber shop were much more tolerable upon finding a table laden with comics there. I even spent some of my hard earned allowance on my own comics. I appreciated visits to my cousin, Kenny, who owned hundreds. Favorites were Superman, Spiderman, Daredevil and The Fantastic Four. These had a profound effect on me, instilling a desire to be more than who I felt I was, to be the hero myself. There also was an important lesson that one person can make a difference. They encouraged me to enjoy reading and added to my vocabulary. Doubt I would have ever learned such words as nemesis, impervious, and invulnerable without them.

Superman seemed to be the most virtuous comic book character. He always did right, never shirked his duty and put others before himself.  I, for one, am glad he is back in the limelight. How about you? Who were your favorites?

Why ResetPreacher?

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ResetPreacher

   Finally, I’m taking the big step of beginning a blog. This will be the first of, I hope, many posts. I pray that the Lord will use my words to further the Kingdom. As you may guess from the name, I started out preaching after my time at Abilene Christian University. And now, after thirty years the Lord has brought me back to full time ministry. I only preached for five years. The reasons I gave to myself and others for quitting at that time were:

I never was comfortable with my time, I always seemed to feel I was neglecting my work or I was neglecting my family.

            I seemed to have little contact with those outside the church I served.

I did not feel my first wife was comfortable “living in a glass house” and dealing with the pressures of being the “preachers wife”.

    Now I admit the real reason, I simply did not have the spiritual strength for the job. You see, the churches I grew up in put great stock in Bible study. And in two colleges I learned a great deal more about how to study the Bible, how to research background, explore related passages and delve into New Testament Greek. These skills were very helpful preparing sermons and teaching classes. I am grateful for them. I am especially grateful for professors and preachers teaching me more about God and about His grace.  But I was taught little about having a personal relationship with God, about prayer.

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